The combination of constant scrutiny and needing to keep up appearances on social media can be extremely detrimental to our self-confidence. All this leads to many of us having fixed mindsets. According to Carol Dweck, an American psychologist, a person with a fixed mindset believes that their basic qualities like intelligence and talent are fixed traits, or unchangeable. You feel like no matter how much you study or work, you will never be able to better yourself. On the other hand, a growth mindset promotes positive thinking, and believing that you can build on your intelligence and talent through effort and persistence.
So many of us prioritize mapping out our careers without thinking of our overall happiness. And if something does not go as planned, we criticize ourselves and internalize our failures. This is a prime example of having a fixed mindset. Whether we get fired, are unable to deliver a big project, or even fail an exam, at this point the ship has already sailed. There is no point in crying over what’s already happened, and instead, we should work on learning from failures.
Harnessing a growth mindset means recognizing failures as stepping stones to success, rather than obstacles. I know it may seem hard to do when you only ever see happy faces all over social media, and people around you are watching every move you make, but the key is persistence and patience. With so much competition these days, it can sometimes be hard to find our footing in the world, but we have to keep moving forward and believe in our abilities.
I urge you to reconsider the way you react the next time you face a setback. Remember to make the most out of a situation whenever you can, and always believe in yourself and your ability to grow as a human being!
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