Updated: Dec 3, 2020

Almost everyone has an idol, a person you look up to the most, admire more than anything or someone who brings a more breathtaking tone to your life. Idols are like little parts of ourselves seen in other people and that could often feel like validation that we are not alone. They are the people you can often relate to, their achievements often become your goals and sources of inspiration as well as fuel to reach for the stars against all odds.

As children, parents were our world. Mom had magical powers which effectively solved any problem and dad… dad was an improved version of Superman! They were the ones who made us laugh through hard times and the ones we could confide in when we trusted no one and felt alone. Most people think of idols as people who did something extraordinary but I find that parents do that everyday. It is such a shame that as we grow up, we humanize them to the point that all we can see is their flaws.

However, this doesn’t mean that idols don’t or shouldn’t have flaws. We are all human and mistakes make us who we are, they are also what makes people admire us and what gives us the power to choose our right or wrong. One of the reasons we need idols is because they remind us that everyone fails, actually, so watching them stand up again makes you more in awe of them than ever before.

In one of his interviews, the American former professional basketball player Michael Jordan said:

“I've lost almost 300 games.

Twenty-six times I've been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed.

I've failed over and over and over again in my life.

And that is why I succeed.”

One of the most admired idols is Yoko Ono. Despite being a very talented singer and songwriter, she was attacked by the press and misogynistic racists for many years , who accused her of breaking up the Beatles and claimed that she should have been murdered instead of her late husband.

Fortunately, Ono’s talent was obvious. Not only was she a skilled artist, pianist and singer, she also managed to release a series of successful albums. One of her songs ‘Don’t worry Kyoko’ is about her daughter who was kidnapped by her father as an 8-yr-old, and wasn’t reunited with her mother until decades later. The way she thrived through such terrible situations in her life is the reason why she is so adored today.

My personal idol is Virginia Woolf. Not only is her style of writing and character analysis magnificent, but also her feminist works have been nothing short of encouraging, relatable and inspiring, yet sad. It’s pretty obvious that I’m a writer but I’m also a feminist. Seeing two aspects of myself in a person I admire just makes my love for writing and pride in myself stronger.

The point is that everyone should have a role model, a hero, an idol. Whether that is an athlete, artist, country leader or a family member you look up to. They are the ones who push us to be better versions of ourselves, often validate our point of view and allow us to be proud of our achievements. There is a long road to self-contentment and having idols to look up to is a critical first step.


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