We all love excuses, don't we? They are a sort of bail; a way to make others look past our faults, sometimes so convincing we fall for them ourselves. I don’t want to discuss excuses and lies, although it does pose as a fascinating topic, what I do think should be brought to the limelight, which hasn’t been talked about enough, is these ‘excuses’ brought to the table by misogynists.
Although most of them deny being ‘misogynists’ or ‘sexist’ because the terms are frowned upon, people who fit the characteristics are all too common even today. Women should stay at home, men are just naturally stronger...tougher. Women are too emotional. Women are natural care-givers. Men don’t ‘belong’ at home. It’s nothing personal, nothing against women. Men are...better. It’s just natural.
Now that is a very common excuse. It’s ‘natural’. I’m sorry to burst your bubble you ignorant few but there is nothing natural about it. Take lions for example. Lionesses hunt their prey and while they’re out, the lions are protecting the cubs and that’s just one example. There are so many other matriarchal societies in the animal kingdom so can people please stop fooling themselves by saying patriarchy is ‘natural’? It’s not.
Another excuse I’m getting pretty tired of hearing is that ‘it just works.’ The part of me that isn’t disgusted to the point of throwing up can’t help but admire how deep this goes. All these years (and when I say ‘all’ these years I don’t just merely mean ‘many years’, this unnecessary, irrational prejudice has been going on since the bloody beginning of time) we have been brainwashed into believing that this is how things go, that men and women have different roles, different potentials. Certain things that each gender is capable of excelling at, while the other is perfectly suited for other things. In a nutshell: lies. Nothing in this world was cut and tailored specifically for any specific gender, I can honestly say that your role in life has absolutely nothing to do with your genitalia, regardless of what little box or what label has been hung on you by those too afraid to let go of what ‘works for them’ or what’s ‘easy’.
That leaves me with the question that I have been asking myself from the moment I knew that this is what I wanted to write about: How can we put a stop to misogyny and sexism?
Now for this, you have to tackle the root of the problem. The cause, well that’s a whole number of things: Religion, tradition and customs but I feel like what is really behind misogyny is fear. A fear of change, a fear that you will have to let go of what is and try to get on board with what could be. I can understand that, I can relate as much as anyone but improvement means change, it means breaking something down in order to build something better, but in order to do that, people need to help and if not help, the least you can do is evacuate the building.
Of course this is a long road but with a bit of communication, awareness and resilience we can definitely build a society which treats people as equals, that takes into consideration all voices no matter who they belong to. A society which has the strength to demolish that run-down building if it means putting, in its place, a worthwhile establishment.
About the author:
My name is Louisa Vichou and I’m a 14 year old aspiring writer who loves painting, pretty much all sports, singing and piano. However, (like all the greats) I have an arch-enemy... maths!