It’s LGBTQ+! The ‘B’ is literally right there! So why is it that people dismiss and invalidate bisexuals so much? Why is being bi so insanely horrible that many even refuse to date them? Why are bisexuals burdened with so many stereotypes and so many insults by both homophobes and even queer people at times!
“Bisexuals will cheat, they just do it for attention, they’re greedy, isn’t a bisexual just someone who wants to have a threesome?” And my all-time favorite would be: “just pick one!” There are so many people who don’t validate bi people and even more who do, but still wouldn’t date them because bisexuals aren’t loyal, bisexuals are nymphos, bisexuals will miss the other gender and dump you eventually, etc.
I’m sorry to say this, but all these stereotypes are bullsh*t. You can’t attack someone because of their sexuality no matter what their sexuality is. Just because someone is bi doesn’t mean that when they are dating someone of the same sex they are gay/lesbian any more than it means that they’re straight when dating someone of the opposite sex. I can assure you that this is definitely not true. Not every bisexual is comfortable with threesomes, and just because someone is bi, they won’t go after you or your partner. Honestly, they are probably already in love with their best friend and couldn’t care less about you.
Finally, I want to say a quick prayer for the people who say being bi is just a phase and that they have to pick a side – they can’t pick one... that’s the point! Anyway, I hope that after reading this article, people can have a little bit of clarity regarding what a bisexual person. Next time you find yourself in a group of people who call a bi person “a fake who’s just doing it for attention” – remember that they are still part of the LGBTQ+ community!
About the author:
My name is Louisa Vichou and I’m a 14 year old aspiring writer who loves painting, pretty much all sports, singing and piano. However, (like all the greats) I have an arch-enemy... maths!